I am just wondering if there is anybody here who tolerate their kids to wake up at 2pm or 3pm? I know of some kids who sleep almost whole day and night during vacation time. Not only one day but almost everyday during vacation? Sleeping at late ours, and getting up at late hours? I don't like that idea. Very lazy bum.. instead of helping the parents during vacation time, they just sleep? and parents doesn't say anything?
Do you let your kids do that? I am annoyed with that situation.
[question posted by Bebs08]
responses and comments:
I don't have any kids but I do have several nephews, and I've never known them to sleep that late when their on vacation, in fact they're always getting up early like they do during school days, but they get up to watch their cartoons. Its us adults that like to sleep late..haha. [walijo2008]
Bebs I am an adult and what is abnormal with it please. Look at my schedule, I get up at 4 in the morning (do you do that?), catch the train at 5 am, then am in the office 9:30, yes you read that right, and work till 4 pm then commute all that sh!t back to home and am home at 8:30. A bite to eat, a bath and a bit online that was my day then. On weekends I catch up on badly needed sleep, if I didnt I would fall out of my clothes in a moment and I am an Adult and not very young any more. So if I need to recharge batteries what about the kids [book1962]
My kids are not really old enough to be staying up late like that but my 8 year old is allow to sleep late in the summer I do not mind but he is all ways up buy 12:00 pm so.. no biggie to me that is just time for me! [sxrxnrr45601]
i agree with you even my child doesnt sleep before 12 ,for her sleeping is some work ,she doesnt like to sleep.but acc to me kids shuold sleep early and should complete theis 9 - 10 hr sleep so that they have good concentration and a fresh day. [sidmeenal]
My kid is just 4, so its no problem for me at this stage if she sleeps almost the whole day. But when she grows up, I may be a bit strict, not because I will need her help but if she gets up at 3pm, it will disturb her entire sleeping and eating pattern. One or two days is fine. But not more. It will be really difficult for her to get back to her old schedule. I still have time for that stage to come. Only time will tell, whether my attitude would be strict or easy going. [rup011]
My kids are still young as well-and I dont have same problem and I hope I wont lol. Some are morning person maybe that explains why some can sleep till late in the afternoon but I think you can train your kids to wake up on a regular time even during vacations by setting bedtime latest 11 pm -so maybe they can sleep till 10 am but later than 10 am thats too much. [pau_79]
My kid is just 4 years old. So I have not reached that stage frankly. But after few years if my child behaves in the same way like sleeping almost the whole day during vacation time, it may be a bit difficult for me to accept. One or two days would be fine. I may not object. But if it continues for many days I will be a bit concerned. I dod not expect help from them. But this attitude would disturb their sleeping and eating pattern and it will be really difficult for them to come back to their old routine. Their health could get affected too. Only time will tell how my attitude will be. But I agree with you. [rup011]
Well, even if we don't expect any help, in my own opinion, my kids should know some house hold work..and I don't want them to just sleep the whole day and do nothing even cleaning their room. [Bebs08]
I'd say it is alright but near the end of the vacation, your children need to get back into the routine / school routine of waking up early etc etc. I would let my kids do this but also to a point. You know what... if you love your kids, it means spending more time with them as well so let them stay up longer so they can wake up a little later. It's perfectly fine in my opinion. [fatsheep]
thanks fatsheep I wholeheartedly agree with you. I am the night owl in person and I have two glorious weeks off work now. I stay up as late as I want in week 1 but in week 2 I got to get adjusted to my normal schedule so its no catastrophe when my alarm clock rings again at 4 am. I also did likewise as a teen, read through a good portion of the night when having vacations and having earlier lights out when next school term was nearing. [book1962]
That did not happen in my house. My husband told out three boys when thye wetre home from school that it was the farm that earned enough to send them to the best boarding schools so they must work on the farm. and did they work? Oh yes. Up at six or before that every morning and did chores and hard work with their father and with the other workers that we employed. No time for lazt teens in our house. Good post. [cynthiann]
Wow!!! I admire you for that!!! that's the best way to let our kids value work. this goes to show that your kids have good future because they are trained to work and for sure!! they can stand with their own faith if in case they will be left alone. Congratulations!!! [Bebs08]
It wouldn't bother me if they were on vacation. We know that you can't "make up sleep" but teens do require a tremendous amount of sleep and food. They are growing still. I'd think you could tolerate it just for the vacation because when school is back in session they'll be back to the books. If you're going somewhere, just set the alarm. I'm not about making vacation time though about them "helping me". It's not a time for chores, it's a time to enjoy the time off. Of course, I'm on the minority in that I don't believe in my children doing my chores. I cleaned the house before they were born, I can clean now. If they want to help, I allow them to play with me, but I don't allow them into the chemicals. I dont' think it's safe. They are children only for a short time, they should enjoy it. Namaste-Anora [Anora_Eldorath]
Book- It's so nice to know I'm not the only parent who parents this way. I mean, they grow up so quickly that I want my little ones to enjoy all they can before they have to worry about working, etc. I mean, little things are fine, helping with a family meal-but nope my kids will never do the bulk of my job as a parent. Namaste-Anora [Anora_Eldorath]
I havent got kid myself, but I remmeber when I was a teenager, even when it is vacation time my mom wont let me sleep in too much, or sleep too late at night for that matters. By sleeping late hours and waking up late as well, we will not only tire ourselves all the time, but also will not be very healthy. And of course, it will also be kind of hard when its time to go back to school again and wake up early in the morning again . I suggest for parents to set out rules for their own kids. Sure sleep late and wake up late is allowed in holiday times but there are certain time.. say for example you need to be awake by at least 930am, that way you still can have breakfast and not missed your meals (it is important to have breakfast) and you still get time to laze around or do stuff for the rest of the day.. Helping out parents would also be a very good idea as it built character and experience for their future. Set rules as well for staying up till late, say for example is they usually needs to be home and in bed by 11pm .. maybe on holidays they could have their curfew increase till maybe about 1am ? (this depends on the age of your child and their maturity.. its totally up to the parents to decide). [luckydolphin98]
Yes, for me, it is ideal for teen agers to help their parents in household duties during vacation time and even during school days. Just by keeping their room neat and tidy is a big help. [Bebs08]
I'm sure some parents just want the kids out of their hair so they don't care. If my kids slept until 2pm they would be left in the woods alone. Vacations are supposed to be about families spending time together and doing stuff. [gitfiddleplayer]
hahaha... you are funny!! they will be left in the woods? Lollol lol I don;t understand also why parents tolerate this? It is annoying to me. [Bebs08]
during the summer or vacations i sleep late not till on or two just till 11 or so its mostly because the rest of my family is sleeping when im awake at night and awake when im sleeping i can wakeup and go get breakfast whail they watch tv then me and my brother hang out till 10 or 11 ar night [riah13224]
wow that's a good vacation.. maybe for 2-3 days but for the whole vacation period like 2 months? everyday? Oh boy!! that's too much..lol [Bebs08]
I don't have kids but I never tolerate such attitude if ever I have one. Parents who tolearate this encourage laziness. Vacation time is not only about resting; it also means sharing time w/ the family and helping house chores. Well good for thhose well-off ones that they don't need to but for those poor and average ones, I guess that's not proper. We never did that when we were students. [silverjam]
Right!! I agree with you. Even maybe the rich? can they not let their kids even go out and exercise than merely sleeping the whole day? Laziness!!! [Bebs08]
During vacation I don't really mind if my kids sleep/wake up late. But, even if they do sleep/wake up late they still have chores to do and I make it a point that they help in cleaning up. Vacation time for us is not just all fun but the time to do general cleaning. Even during school days they have assigned chores that they need to do everyday. All my kids are boys but I train them to do household chores. [aprilten]
I admire parents who are like you. It is really important to teach our kids to do simple chores at home and give them responsibility to carry on any work everyday. A kid who know nothing about household chores is very unfortunate when he will grow up and live by himself. You are great!! [Bebs08]
Our conditions must be different. My son is a Chinese high school student. We all know that high school students have heavy pressure in their school life. So I don't mind if he is lazy or not in his vacation time, cause I know he is really tired and need more rest. [kometer]
Well, in my own opinion, every child must be given a chance or opportunity to learn simple things in everyday life and it starts at home. The whole vacation time is not all for rest.. yes, they will have to rest in a day but not whole day and night doing nothing? in this situation, we are teaching the kids to be lazy. I admire the kids of rich people that even they have maids to help them in everything, they still know how to keep their own thing in order.happy [Bebs08]
Nope! My son has been disciplined to wake up on time and not to let the sun enters his room windows before he get up. Most children do not sleep early and are fond of staying late at night. They hate it when they are asked to sleep early. I noticed how different the young people of today are. They would stay awake till midnight and then they'd sleep the whole day and would wake up late afternoon. What kind of life is that. I can't tolerate that kind of living in my son. My husband is also a disciplinarian and he has helped me a lot in teaching our son the right living and sense of responsibility. [salonga]
Very good my friend, I admire you for that. Yes, there are parents who tolerated their kids to sleep late and wake up late and that is not right!! even if they said, they need a break from a stressful studies? but not teaching their kids to have a sense of responsibility? too bad.. It is unfortunate when kids don't know anything even simple house work. It's not the kid's fault but the parents.. [Bebs08]
Oh well you would get angry at me too….but I do let my son oversleep during vacation. Not late afternoon but say till 10 am in the morning. During school, he wakes up at 5:30 am every week day and also on weekends he is up early for his studies….so in vacations I do let me relax and catch up on sleep. [sudiptacallingu]
well, for me there's nothing wrong with that 10am as long as he is not idle after he woke up. Like do whatever relaxation he would want for the whole summer? well, in my own opinion, I should teach my kids simple responsibilities at home. I have no kids but I have nephews and nieces whom I am helping them to develop the sense of responsibility with regards to home duties because parents will not always be with them till they get old to do everything for them. They should know how to do things by themselves. [Bebs08]
One or two hours late from bed is okay for me.But as you say I won't allow them to sleep the whole day and night.They should engage themselves with games or friends and plan their future.At least they should read some useful books in the vacation time. [srganesh]
correct!!! I can agree with that plus let them do some simple chores at home to develop their sense of responsibilities. [Bebs08]
I don't have kids, but if I did, I would let them sleep as long as they wanted to during vacation time. Then they would let ME sleep as long as I wanted to. I guess they'd finally have to wake me up around 3 p.m., because eventually I'm sure they'd get hungry...ha ha [Druscilla34]
Well, everyone has his own opinion about things like this. Maybe you don't realize that because you have no kids. I have no kids too but I am with kids for many years when I was teaching and I know how hard to deal with kids who don;t know anything because they are not taught to do things at home. There's nothing wrong with oversleeping but not everyday until the whole summer is over. [Bebs08]
I have a 6 year old and I would never let her sleep that late unless she was sick or something. I like my kids to go to bed at a reasonable hour, so letting her sleep would totally defeat the purpose. I don't want her awake so that she can help me with the house work and stuff. She's still a bit young for detailed chores, but I do want her to have a normal sleep schedule. I know teenagers need more sleep, but for crying out loud...get in bed early! Don't stay up half the night then sleep all day! [MissAmie]
wow!! that's a good idea, I truly admire parents who are teaching their kids about simple home chores. This is very important because in the long run, they will benefit this. Kids who know nothing, specially teen agers are pity when they have to live alone by themselves, they are helpless that even washing their own underwear they don't know how to do it. It's pity.sad [Bebs08]
My older daughter will sleep all day if I let her she has been that way since she was a newborn she has always loved her sleep. She is 14 but my 11 year old she is my early riser she will get up at 6 am pretty much every day. I tell her she can sleep in until 9 during the weekends but nope she gets up at 6 AM. It would be nice for me to get to sleep in once in a while hehe. She is a funny one that is for sure. Have a nice day! [patriciaqualls]
Lol... she is a nice girl huh? early riser at 6am? wow that's still dark here and pretty cool during winter. Well, she will not be having a hard time when she grow older much more if she is helping in the house chores at least to orient herself about the facts of home duties. [Bebs08]
Actually its really annoying, but i feel pity on them during school days. That they need to wake so early in the morning and get home very exhausted in the afternoon. So in return, i promise them that they can do anything they want during summer/ vacation time. But its not letting them wake up late in the afternoon, i really don't tolerate my kids doing that not unless they are very sick. During vacation, I let them go to sleep as late as 2 - 3 am, then they wake up at 12 nn or before lunch. It's usually automatic to them that whenever they sleep late at night, their body click is timed until lunch time tomorrow. And my kids are not that too lazy. I make it appoint that all of them have their own time in doing the household chores. Even my 3 yr old little girl can be trusted of whatever chores you ask her to do. Of course except cooking though she wanted to explore on it.....thats it. [reulin]
wow!! nice,, a 3 year old already has the sense of responsibility for home chores? wow!! that is nice. I r is really exciting to see these little kids doing simple chores, like keeping their toys in place, fixing their beds, they are really CUTE!!! [Bebs08]
i should say that i tolerate my child to wake up very late because even me i also wake up late during vacation time. because that's the only time i can take a rest for the whole week of work. and for me, that's one of our bonding moment of my child, sleeping for the rest of the day. hehe [nikagesmundo]
Well, that's nice also, to have bonding? but if whole day in whole summer? that is another thing. [Bebs08]
Personally, I think kids are kids. School is just as hard as work to them and on your days where you can do nothing at all, don't you stay up alittle later and then sleep in a bit. I think that if you want your kids to do chores, tell them the week before what their chores for the week are and then they know what time they need to wake up and do them. My mom always let me sleep in because she knew my brothers and i needed the break. On our days off we had chores, but if it was during the week we only had to do one of them and she was do the rest since she was a stay at home mom. School was more important to them and they knew that relaxing on the few days off was good for us. [22angel22]
Well, that is a good idea too. give them assignment for the week and it's up to them to accomplish that.. as long as they will do it, that is alright... for me too. [Bebs08]
I do not have kids but if I had kids they would of course be allowed to sleep in as long as they want. After all they are as drained from all that learning and getting up in time during the school term plus all this other nonsense that most overly competitive idiots of parents put onto the poor kiddies schedules as the normal adult is from working in an office or wherever. So LET THE POOR KIDS CATCH UP ON BEING LAZY AND ON SLEEPING. Vacations are not there to have the kids help their parents all the time but recharge their batteries after all they are not " a little too small adults" but KIDS and they need a bit of CARE and parents who devote time to them as persons and not shoo them from school to homework to football to additional English classes to what ever BS there is the poor kids are overwhelmed with. Adults need some meme time and I think kids even need more of it. I remember being a kid and teen and having to get up at 9 in the morning or 9:30 the least, what for damn it? hanging around cause my mother the overly proud housewife with spotless place perfectionistically scrubbed and what evered all the time?? I really do regret that I got married much too late in life to have kids I knew what to do better than how I was raised. [book1962]
Well, you are right!! I agree with you that school is so stressful to the kids and vacation is fun.. but teaching them small task to do in a few minutes every day would not harm them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. [Bebs08]
I cann't stand the one who sleep all day. I think if you are tired you can get up later during vacation. We just need keep 8 hours sleeping time every day. 8 houres is enough for adult. If we sleep more time we can feel more tired. When you wake up naturally, don't hesiate to get up. Don't waste the time in the bed. [arluling]
You are truly right!! I agree 100 percent!! staying in bed whole makes a person weak and tired... Lol. [Bebs08]
Hi Bebs, I will not love that also. I appreciate if during that time, they are active in helping their parents in the household chores or anything they can contribute! [checapricorn]
You are right Che, Kids must not be tolerated sleeping the whole day unless they are sick or they did not sleep the whole night. LOL so they can sleep the whole day happyif that's the case. [Bebs08]
No I dont tolerate that. But of course for younger children, they should be encouraged to sleep in the afternoon for their growth, for about 2 hours. Even during vacation, children should not be kept awake late and should be encouraged to wake up early. Parents on the other hand should provide their children some activities to make their summer vacations meaningful. It is the parent's responsibilities to ensure the proper growth and development of every child. Letting your child sleep the whole day without any reason (sickness for example) can make him lazy as he/she grows old. [Chrystal08]
You are right!!! am glad to hear there are parents who have this idea for their children. In this manner you are helping your kids to be responsible people in the future, that they can stand alone and know what to do at home when you are gone. [Bebs08]
Ok i am a teenager although i only sleep to just about 10 or 11 when i am on break. When we are at school its very tireing for us and we want rest. And let face it your kids if they are in high school probably get or at least some do get drunk or high every night you just dont notice it. We are young let us get our sleep you us to sleep late as late as we want were young we need out rest thats a proven fact. [solson]
Well, it's not actually a big issue to sleep late during vacation if only 2 or 4 days.. but if the whole vacation period kids would wake up at 2-3pm? what is that mean? well, maybe 10am is ok, but if it will go beyond that everyday? Lol.. well it's up to you. It is your right to do what you want. But most kids who don't oversleep are healthy and wise.happy [Bebs08]
When I was a child,sometimes I may sleep a whole day during the vocation,but not all the time.My parents always told me:"early sleep,early get up" do good to health. [kingxu]
Well, that's alright if it is not all the time. You deserve to have oversleep once in a while but not the whole summer. LOl. [Bebs08]
I have a young sister studying in middle school, when she have long school holidays, she sleeps late and gets up late. I thikn it's ok for couples time in a week but not every single day during the holidays otherwise, they will get used to this habit, when they need to go to school again, tey feel lazy. [mermaidivy]
Correct!! it is alright to oversleep once in a while but not the whole summer. Yes, it will make them lazy to wake up early when school is back again. [Bebs08]
i tolerate after all they are our kids.also we can allow them for some ays but not foe all holidays. [keerthu]
well, that's fine.. but not the whole holidays.. [Bebs08]
i don't have kids right now but in futute i think i cantolerate this.. but not 2 pm 3pm i think i can tolerate my kids till 11 pm to 12 Pm. that's fair time for childrem to wake up in the vacation.. because i was also rise very lately till the 12 pm but my mom shout on me but i never listem.. and i think that my children should also sleen in the whole vacation so that they can enjoy thier sleep more. nice topic. thanks for sharing thi topic. have a good day [Jinu3132]
hahaha wow!! I had experienced also a shout from my mom when I was a teen because it is really nice to sleep but I did not oversleep till 2-3pm.. just 8-9am and my mom is mad why I would not wake up.. Lol.. [Bebs08]
well that's extremely late ...who could somebody specially kids sleep for so long..! i wonder what they do late night ..! well sleeping for so long is not good for health even,it may cause laziness ,and when their schools starts they would find extremely difficult to wake up early..! and even if they try and get up they would definitely sleep in their school ..! so if i would be a parent i won't allow my child to wake up so late..! as my parents even don't allow me to do so..! as i m a college student,their has to be a occasion or if i m very much free no work to do,i would prefer sleeping..! [mone101]
Well, I think this has been carried from generation to generation. If our old folks were not allowed to have this by their parents, it will be carried over to the next generation. As mot answers here are based when they are yet young. Some said their parents don't tolerate and others said their parents tolerated so that's what they do too. happyhappy [Bebs08]
I think kids sleeping that late is a bit much. I usually do give my kids a break from having to get up at 6 am every morning they usually sleep in but then there up by 7:30 every morning during vaction. Kids need to be outside playing and exercising and doing different activites rahter than sleeping their whole time away that's just ridiscouls. [christylynn]
I agree with that. They should not be tolerated sleeping the whole day. Go out exercise and do little errand would be the best thing.happy [Bebs08]
My kids don't do that. When they become teenagers, if they start doing that, it will bother me if they sleep too late. ON the other hand, I like to sleep late butnot past noon. [dawnald]
Well, me too sometimes I wake up late but not 2-3pm? that is too much... happy [Bebs08]
The latest I will let my kids sleep is about 9:30 in the morning. If they sleep too long, they will not onlymiss the day, but have a hard time going to sleep at night. I would feel like an irresponsible parent if I let my kids sleep all day. [lynnemg]
absolutely!! I agree with that idea. kids should be taught to be responsible...and if parents are responsible the kids do too... [Bebs08]
Well, I guess I'm one of them. I usually am up all night either browsing the internet or studying. Because I don't get much time during the day as I have my college and other stuff to do. I usually wake up at around 12 noon and I go off to sleep around 4am - 4.30am. But my mom is quite used to it now, because I've been following such a routine for the past 4 years now. [zeethegr8]
Oh?? you sleep at 4 am? well, that is a different thing.. maybe you are studying nursing and you are practicing with the night shift?lol But anyway, your case might be different. [Bebs08]
i think its a good thing for kids to wake up late on vacation. though its meant to get out and do something other than school, kids like to get a comfortable sleep. plus teens will like hanging out during the night time. so to teens, the day is just to sleep away [bdhsyear2012]
Oh!! for me? I will not allow my teen to hang around late at night.. they can do that early in the night but late? no.. no.. and sleeping too much? the more no.. because they need to be our and do a little exercise and do some errands. [Bebs08]
Hi friends, Well to me, vacation is vacation. This is a time for young adults to pick their own times. There finally is no schedule which they must follow most of the year. My kids do this and I don't mind at all. In fact, when all is done and the dinner dishes are put away, a lot of times I'll start a movie at 11:00 pm and its nice to spend the time with them. About a week and a half before school begins again, then we get back into the schedule and certainly don't have any problems with this. Cheers, Cheryl [cher8558]
Wow!! congratulations that you can put up time together with you kids to enjoy during vacation time. What I am talking about is those kids who are just sleeping and doing nothing even family affairs nothing... just sleep lollol [Bebs08]
Sometimes I tolerate them to wake up late after their week long exam in school,but not as late as 2-3 pm. waking up at 10 am is enough for them.Much more during vacation time.I encourage them to so some household chores for me at the same time learning for themselves. [Erssyl]
Oh that's fine.. 10 am and you are also encouraging them to do household task. Those who tolerate their kids sleeping like whole day? hahah I think not good for them.. they need to go out and exercise by doing some work outside. even for a short time..not all day sleep,, [Bebs08]
I can't tolerate it. The maximum I've seen anyone sleep upto is noon...2pm and 3 pm is like almost the whole day as far as I am concerned...when do these kids go to sleep? When my older one was younger...(upto the age of 6 when I had my little one), my son would be up early in the morning and help me with my work at home. This routine continued even during vacations and so it was easier when school re-opened. But now after I had my little one, my husband and mother ruined the perfect routine we had and now my son is getting up late every morning. The latest is 9 am...and that bugs me no end. I want him up by 6 atleast...at present 7am is the earliest he is up (only when he has classes or something to do). He doesn't get enough sleep and is then lethargic all day. I've been trying for days to get him to change these (what I consider) bad habits. [SViswan]