I grew up in a neighborhood where my MOM could trust our neighbors to watch our property while we were away on vacation for weeks. As a young child, my mother had several friends in the neighborhood who she spoke to on a daily to bi-daily basis. Everyone in our neighborhood loved my MOM and respected her as well. So as I grew up and wanted to have a family of my own. I knew that I wanted to have that type of a relationship with my neighbors where we could watch out for each others' things.
Although I don't have a very close relationship with my present neighbors, we have enough repour established that we will watch out for each other's homes. Plus since there has been a few break-ins in the entire community, our home owner's association implemented a neighborhood watch with more police and security patrols.
So how about you, TRUST THY NEIGHBOR?
[question posted by hdjohnson]
responses and comments:
Before, we live in a place where nobody watch their own houses because they are working somewhere. These days, we live in a place where anything can happen. We have a neighbor but most of the time, they are away and nobody stays in the house. I think that they trust my dad watching their home. Of course when we leave or on vacation, we trust that our neighbor will watch our house!happy [learn2earn]
we have a few i can trust.. the same one always have me watch thier house when they are away [syankee525]
When I first moved into my house (fifteen years ago) I had neighbors I could count on to watch the place if I left for a few days. Now, I don't have that luxury. The neighbors are okay, but I am not certain I'd trust them for more than one day happy [fwidman]
Unfortunately not. I only have one set of neighbours and they are the ones I have to watch out for! They get very drunk and loud, throw beer cans over my fence and have thrown fireworks at my dog. They jump over the fence to steal the fruit off my trees in the middle of the night. We have had several run-ins over their behaviour but, since they own their house, I am stuck with them. [Piscesmoon]
Yes,this is a true test of a neighbors nature .We are living in our house for the past 40 years and the love created by the neighbor and ourselves is very close. And mostly we move about on tours,hence Totally leave the house ojn their care. We are fortunate that till date no problem was there. [gyaneshwarrao]
Hi hdjohnson, I live in a small apt building , and there are a few that I could trust, but just to be safe I let the police know that I'm going away, my children, and my brother. Also, I have an alarm system. That way I'm covered. Happy myLotting Snowqueenhappy [snowqueen2008]
With all these gossiping and envious neighbors we have, NO WAY we will ever entrust our house to them! I'm friendly to friendly and innocent people, but to the ones who are hypocrites and likes to take advantage of others' kindness... nevermind building friendships with them, it won't be any worthwhile anyway. [amira_milka]
There are a few different neighbors that I would trust like that, but not the majority. I would have to know them very, very, well before I'd turn over the keys to my house! I was often asked to watch a neighbors house...get the mail, the paper, turn lights on and off, water plants and feed pets etc. Knowing a neighbor is not enough, you have to absolutely trust them. In the 50's & 60's when I was growing up, you knew your neighbors well, and you knew if you could trust them. Nowadays people move so much and we're not as apt to know our neighbors well like we did in the past. If I had a relationship with a neighbor, as your Mom had (daily talking, etc) then I would probably trust that person enough to hand over my keys and trust them totally. [JoyfulOne]
Well some of them I would trust, but others I would not. I still prefer to have someone I have known for years to come by and check on my home. My next door neighbors are good folks. Some of the other people can gossip a bit too much though. [nangel78]
We have wonderful neighbors. While we all give each other our privacy, we can all count on each other to look out for our homes and pets when we are gone. [rocketj1]
I trust my neighbor across the street. Not only because she's trustworthy and reliable but because she's very nosy and is friends with the chief of police in our little town. [writermommy6]
i lived in a place the people can not trust each other. that is sad [JJJ373737]
yes ,of course. in china, there is a saying:??????. [thundercai]
Yes,I trust my neighbors to watch my house while on a vacation,because the relation between my heighbors are very good.So I believe them. [victory999]
Hi friend, personally i do not trust my neighbours to watch my house while i am on vacation because i am not on really good term with my neighbours. I would personally ask my relative to watch my house if i am on vacation if they are free. But there are time where i did not ask anyone to watch my house as my country is quite a safe country and i guess i do not have to worry much about burglars. CHEERS [swarovski87]
Oh I don't thin it would apply here, although I have said before that we do give food to each other, not that I don't trust them but I don't want to add up on their responsibility on their life, let's just say that I don't expect them to. [pehpot]
It depends on the nature of neighbors.I can trust my neighbor hundred percent. [sreejithsreenivas]
If you really know your neighbor you can entrust your house to them but if you dont really know i dont think its right to let them watch your house. [keeping_jeremiah2911]
yes, I trust my neighbour.. [evealonez]
No, I'll ask one of my relatives to look over the house when I'm gone but not my neighbors. I'm not even close with my neighbors. I only know their names and address and that's about it. Haha. We have a pretty big extended family, so anytime someone needs his or her house watched, there's someone in the family who can do it. [mimico]
There are few neighbors I can trudst but I usually invite redlatives to come over to my house and watch it till I come back. [lady_cayote]
Yes I do have a neighbour that I can put my trust in, he's an elderly and retired and can be seen as a person that can be trusted. On my last year holiday I left my spare house keys with him and ask him to take all letters that addressed to me and my wife to be kept with him or put inside my house. He did it very well and I would ask his favor for our upcoming 1 month holiday. [jhartana]
ME LIVE IN AN URBAN PLACE, AND THERE I GREW THAT WE HAVE GOOD REALATIONSHIP TO OUR NEIGHBOR IT FEELS THAT THEY ARE OUR BROTHER AND SISTER, THEN ONE DAY MY MOM TOLD US THAT WE MAKE A VAcation to my grandmmother and all of ur left, then my mother toild our neighbor to watch our home , she really trust the neighbor, till that i was married i used that i dead, so even me i apply also to myself to trust my niegbor everything not only to watch my house but even my neccesisities [lovely30]
i trust my neighbor they r more like our family. our neighborhood is more than hundred years old. everybody know each other very well. We help each other, celebrate together and have a great time. [hitejam89]
We've only lived in our house for two years, but last summer we trusted our neighbors to watch our property while we took a two week vacation. It was either that, leave it without anyone watching it, or cancel or trip. Even though we haven't known them long, we felt they'd do a good job, and they did. Usually you can tell who will be trustworthy and who won't. Living in small-town, rural Iowa like we do doesn't hurt, either. [sbeauty]
I caretake homes and pets and gardens here on my street for several neighbours.. just got into it when one neighbour asked when they would be in Germany for a couple of weeks and I could look after the plants and fish and hydro and temperature in the house and cut the grass.. sure! not a problem and so the word went out, since my neighbours ALL travel and like the idea of security when they are gone and so I do it regulary over summer, other holiday times and on weekends and I KNOW that if and when I travel, someone or others will step forward to help me out too. There is no question of trust,, nóne.. we exchange keys,, I currently have a little keyboard of them, only 5 permanent extras, but those people need dogwalking if they are home later or child minding or deliveries will come or repair people or they just travel alot with their jobs..and I can arrange it for them even if I cannot do it all myself. Our community is small and friendly and we trust each other. Life is like that and people help each other here. Security & friendship [fjaril]
Absolutely not! I hear all the old age pensioners talking about this, how they used to be able to leave their doors unlocked and they would feel totally safe! Also, how they would ask their neighbours to check their home whilst they were away and they were comfortable with that. The thing is, the world has moved on I guess! It's a shame that things are not like that now. I suppose there are some small places where you have been living for many years and you have come to know the next door neighbours, and you can trust them with keeping an eye on your home. Where I live though, the neighbours don't remain long enough in order to get to know any of them! There's always someone new taking over from the previous occupants. I would really love things to be like that once again, whereby we can really become close friends with the neighbours next door, that would be very nice. I'm very security concious now though. If I'm away then I will ask a very good friend to check in on my place from time to time, rather this than the neighbour next door. Andrew [AndrewFreyne]
My old neighbor here I would trust with my house while I was away. They also trusted me to keep an eye on theirs too. But the moved out early this summer. I don't have a new neighbor yet but I do miss my old neighbor. Even though we were not buddies, we had respect for each other and were both quiet and respected each others space. My neighbor that moved in on the other side I would not trust. He moved in this summer and is a pot head. So I wish he moves. I can smell it while I am outside with my children. Nasty. [vicki2876]
lol I'm not laughing at your present situation with the unwanted neighbor. I'm laughing at the way you expressed yourself in regards to him. Yes indeed, I wouldn't want that type of neighbor either. Even one of my neighbors just smokes cigarettes, I don't like for my children to be around that either. I grew up with a mother that smoked, sometimes several packs of cigarettes a day. I'm very thankful that I never picked up that habit. I am also thankful that I actually repelled from it and couldn't stand being in the same room, when she lit up. Ironically she found it funny. But I still loved her. [hdjohnson]
Our neighbors are trust worthy and on one side of us they are family. The others are just people we know, and I have watched their house for them and know they would do the same for me. [SuzyQ12]
I would hope that family neighbors could be trustworthy, but some folks unfortunately can't trust their own flesh and blood. Which is just SAD. sad But the bright side of it all, is you don't have that concern at least in your immediate neighborhood. happy [hdjohnson]
I dont think my neighbours would steel from us but they are so bloody nosy !!The other day we found a woman sitting in a tree watching us !(adult woman or so one would think!) Its terrible and its not like we made a noise or did something funny to prevoke her ,we just hasd a barbeque with friends how embarrasing !) [behnke]
WOW! Talk about weird and strange phenomenons! I would keep a close, close, close watch out for that one. You will never know, these days. [hdjohnson]
Yes. I trust a lot of my neighbours, we are all very close around here. We look after each others homes while on vacation. I let my neighbour have my house keys and my alarm number. If my alarm was to go off accidently at least it would be turned of quickly without annoying the whole neighbour hood. I would also collect my neighbours mail, from the floor and put it out of view. I put out the garbage, water their plants and if it is hot 'their grass'. Yes, we certainly look out for each other. Thats what good neighbours do. [hildas]
Absolutely. I don't even have to ask them to watch the house. They do it on a daily basis when I'm home, I know they'll do it when I'm away. My block is full of older people who have nothing better to do than call the village police for every little thing (which is both an annoyance and a blessing). I know my home is safe. I had my car parked in front of my house, I had just gotten it. The police knocked on my door and asked if I knew who's car that was parked in front of my house. I said it was mine. The police responded with "Well we received a complaint that the vehicle was abandoned because it hasn't moved in a week." I replied that I didn't have the plates or the title transfer recorded yet so I didn't want to drive it around until the paperwork was in order. He told me to park it in the garage or just move it from one side of the street to the other every other day so it wouldn't spook the neighbors. Okay, so now I park it in the garage. [marianstallings]
Hello! My mother has a lot of friends in the neighbourhood. Although my mother never trust anybody 100%, she really do trust our neighbours, if they have to watch our house or if they have to enter here to feed the dog. She established this great kind of friendship with everybody, in which there is respect nad happiness together. Respectfully, Munhozmib. [munhozmib]
We have lived here for 8 months, and I don't know a single one of my neighbors yet. I hate the city. :( [Quillspirit]
I have been through the same thing as you. I have just moved into this community and I disagree with you.Even though you don't know anyone in your city you start by making friends with them. At first I didn't have any friends in the new community. But after 2 months, I made lots of friends! So I think you should give it a try too.Hope this helps! [kokacola10]
not me but my husband is. okay here the story when he was in the philippines to visit he asjed his neighbor to watch his house but the problem when he come back he got broken window and some foods at the kitchen was gone and some of his collections was stolen. its not just once it happens two times and the second time when he was talking to me online and when he check at the kitchen stuff from kitchen and foods are in outside as they are trying to steal his foods lol [skywolfcel]
I wouldn't let someone in your neighbor watch your property while your away. I suggest this because you have not yet learned much information about your neighbor. Plus, like you said, there were a few break-ins in your community. Even though there are more police and security patrols any one you trust by mistake can steal from you. And the bad part is the police or you wouldn't know who stole it. Instead, you should let one of your relatives look after your property.I hope my advise helps! [kokacola10]
Watching a house from the outside and giving my keys to a neighbor are too different things. I would not ever give my keys to my home away, unless I knew them since I was small, and they needed a place to stay while we were perhaps on a vacation. I wasn't posing the question for advise, although I do welcome what you have said. And I totally agree with you on the very solid points you've assessed and made quite distinctly clear. I would not allow any more in my present neighborhood to have keys to my home. That to me simply invites trouble. What is some thieves did know were going to take a vacation and leave the keys with neighbor A. The thieves might attempt to make harm neighbor A if they did not give them the keys to my home. That would simple put this neighbor in a terrible position. No, since we rarely go places anyway, we don't usually have this particular challenge. [hdjohnson]
Our neighbors on one side are extremely nice and trustworthy. As a matter of fact, one of them is my doctor. My mother has multiple times given them a key, had them watch our house, pick up our mail, etc. They also often bring back our dog when he runs out (which is a lot). However, on the other side of our home is a older woman who has often given us reasons to question her sanity. There is no possible way that we would be okay with her watching our house. [trtgirl31]
i can trust a few of my neighbours that i have good relationship with... not all though... i live in a complex of 8 units of townhouses and one of my neighbour is the body corporate representative... so we can always count on him to look after my house when i go on a vacation... take care and have a nice day... [lingli_78]
I do trust my neighbour. Trust is a subjective matter and we can't build it just in a few days. It needs a lot of time and a lot of efforts. [liquorcs]
I don't speak to my neighbors too much so I don't even know if they would watch my house while I'm gone! I'll say hi now and then, but a conversation, nah. I'm pretty personal, so I stay to myself most of the time! Taripre$ [taripres]
Thanx, I plan to work it out through a plan, but the earnings and posts aren't adding up anymore! Tryin 2 figure this thing out! glare Taripre$ [taripres]
Our neighbors is the first people we call in times of trouble inside our community. I trust them too and we always ask our neighbor to watch our house while we are out of town or at the office or every where. We have the good relationship with them we often talk about the improvement we can do to help others. Having a good relationship with them is simply following to Christ order. "Love thy neighbor." [mods196621]
I did trust my neighbor, she was the one that I mentioned in the last post of yours about sharing food.. I say that I DID, but she moved and now I have new neighbors, who I don't know.. These "new" neighbors are the ones who I am sure called the fire department on us for what they called "illegal burning".. We live in the county and can burn brush legally when we follow proper procedure, which we did.. We have to have a burn permit and follow a set of safety rules to safely burn which we did and have done for the last ten years, but after being in their house for about 2-3 days only, they called and reported us for Illegal burning.. We were legal and were told by the fire department that we were legal and doing nothing wrong, but we still received a $1,200.00 bill from Rural Metro for this 5 minute visit from them to tell us that we were doing nothing wrong, that everything was ok.. Now I have neighbors who I don't believe that I will ever be able to like nor trust and I don't like it at all.. I also have another neighbor on the other side of me who I would trust to keep an eye out on things but she is in her 80's and all she could do it call the police, which she would.. [DonnaLawson]
I would not trust my neighbours. There is every chance that my neighbours themselves would come inside and steal my possessions. Therefore, it would be unwise for me to trust my neighbours. But some people are lucky to have trust-worthy neighbours, but such cases are rare. [Indrajit_25]
Yes I trust them.They are really very good whenever I go to out of town or city,I give them the key of my home and told them that please do care of my home. [PRIYANK1992]