hello! im back and i return to 42 friend request??? would it be rude if i denied most of them i dont want to go through all of them?
[question posted by annie44]
responses and comments:
Anything other than fair consideration would appear to be either rude, arrogant or cavalier. lol So how will you decide? [nuffsed]
Who said that pork was bad for you? [sndcain]
hey this happens to me too, i deny most friends requests too. However it gets funny when my husband comes on for a play and he is getting friends requests ferom 18 year old Indian males who obviously think its me they are talking to. No its not rude, just sheer logistics lol happy posting [ESKARENA1]
ur profile photo is so interesting!!!! [navinbond017]
it sure is now isnt it???? [annie44]
hello!!!! I know it sounds awful but when i came back I had a bunch too, alot... unfortunatly i didnt have to time to go through all of them right then so i denied alot! [killailla]
I missed you too killa. I hope all is as good as can be expected. I'm sorry that you had such a hard time. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love from my house to yours. [vikingswest]
Yeah I get like 5-6 a day lol and that deny link is getting pretty faded out lol...Most people just need a friend even if there's not much in common to start with! [MaxPower1971]
lol they were denied! well most were... [annie44]
It's up to you and if you want more friends or not. [Lydia1901]
I think MyLot should give us a way to ask these people why they want to be our friends! They can put the button right next to the buttons for approve & deny. I get friend requests form people who I've never seen before, who have never been in my discussions or any that I've responded to! Before I approve or deny, I would really like to know what it is that makes them want to be my friend. Is it something I wrote, my cute kitty picture, or are they just trying to collect friends like we are Pokemon cards or something! You are NOT rude to deny friendship to people you know nothing about. If they have not been to any of the topics you've been to, and you haven't been in their topics, it is likely they are just "collectors". I don't usually approve requests unless if I can see where they've been to my topic, if I've been to their's or maybe they liked my response to someone else's topic. I try to look in places they have responded to so I can see if they are the sort of folks I want for friends. If you don't have time to track these people down, and you want to clear your space, just deny - you can always request them another time if you want their friendship. [Angrykitty]
Hail to Angrykitty! You took the words right out of my mouth. I have nothing more to add here. [DoubleB66]
I have denied several people. I mostly just try to pick a few friends, otherwise, if I had too many, I would not be able to manage them all. [Geminigirl]
42 requests thats not bad for 3 days. You just need to check them out (if you've got time), what ratings do they have and how do they respond to discussions? 1 word answers or totally irrelevent responses to discussions would rule them out for me immediately. Also I would rule out those using 'TXT' writing, I would not reject those whose English is not good, especially if they have English as a second language. The other thing I would also look at is the quality of the discussions that they have started (if any). You also have to decide if you have enough time to support 42 extra friends, which should mean looking at (and responding) to some of their discussions. [Eskimo]
add all of em be happy, dont worry =] [Sharpie718]
because you look very nice all the people want to be your friend... [pizzoli]
Totally depends upon u but i would suggest u take some time in responding these friends's request...i mean its not compulsion or binding on u to add the all 42 in one day///do add those whom u want to and u can skip the rest of those... [avs189]
Hey u can't deny the genuine proposalzzzzzzzzzzz :) !!! [varun23]
i dont think that you would be rude at all.ive never seen you be rude yet. what i do is approve them all and then over a period of a few days,check them out one by one,see what topics they have been involved in and look at their profiles.the ones that i dont think are that hot,i delete.i have to say though that when i did have a few after my holiday,i did think about denying them all,but i didnt. [jimbo45]
Well, in that case I will work hard to earn your friendship before I ask you. Is that fair? [PowerHitter]
i hav 51 requests pending on my list right now and i dont know what to do with these i m really fed up with so many frnds requests but what i think is that u must request frnds only to those to whom u know and u hav some thing to share with i hav accepted alot of requests of ppl whom really r inactive now a days here at mylot so how to coop with all this i really dont know [gulshah]
Well - compared to a lot of MyLotters, I do have a small list of friends. The friends on my list are: * My upline & our small circle of friends in which we knew each other before MyLot * One of them, I knew years before MyLot (from other sites) * A young lady I had met in a paid-to chatroom - she & I became MyLot friends first * Friends I had met here ... after I invaded their discussions Well - you do have a lot of intelligent topics. I think people saw intelligence & beauty all wrapped up in one package & sent you a request. Someone had also responded that there are a lot of Indian males with female avatars. As far as I am concerned, any male that has a female avatar is nothing more than a cheat & a liar, & if I get a freinds request from one of them, I automatically reject. [KrazyKlingon]
thanks ive been on a delete frenzzy lately lol i think alot of ppl with female avatars that were male got deleted and a few that had all sexual topics got the boot from my list too having a big list makes it complicated to find interesting thing to respond to cuz some start 10 topics a day and half are just silly [annie44]