Right now, I am so emotionally drained, I feel like I'm on the verge of losing it completely! Many of you know that we have been having problems with Social Security, our friends and our daughter. Well, we finally got a bit of good news yesterday. We got the kids' part of the Social Security. It's like their child support, but the government is paying it because their lousy father won't. So, we go to the bank to open accounts for the kids like SS told us we had to do. Well, let me tell you, it was a nightmare! We didn't have the right paperwork, so we had to go and get it from our local SS office. It took over an hour to start up the accounts. We couldn't cash any of it. It all had to go into the kids' accounts. Then, we had to go back to the SS office to give them the bank paperwork and stuff. Then, last night, two of our dogs decided to break through our fence and take off! That's not even the worst part. First, they went into our neighbor's yard and through their house, injuring their cat. Then, they killed a cat from across the street! Another neighbor from down the street actually caught them and brought them home. I don't know what to do about them. We told the neighbors that we, of course, would pay any vet bills. The one dog, we took to the pound 6 months ago and the pound refused to take her. This is not the first time that she has killed a cat. One got into our yard and she killed it. Our neighbors basically hate us now. Between my friends refusing to talk to me, my daughter having screaming meltdowns and now the dogs, I just feel emotionally spent! I don't want to be at home. I feel like I'm constantly on eggshells here. I'm so afraid that we're going to say something and send my daughter off on another rampage. I have no one to talk to about it because, like I said, my best friend won't even answer my phone calls. Thanks for letting me vent.
[question posted by wellamoose]
responses and comments:
Whew...your message was quite something. It seems you need somebody to talk to. Its good that this site can let you blew some of the steam. Just remember the saying, "if God got you into it, then God will get you through it".. This message helps me look at my problem in a different perspective. Hope it will do the same to you. If you need someone to talk to, I can be a friend. [makemyday_nice]
Thank you for offering your friendship. I have made some really great friends here! I just keep telling myself, "This too shall pass". Thank you for your kind words. [wellamoose]
Goodness Wella I will have to go into your Discussions to see what has happened to you here Girl I hope you will be able to sort something out there Why can't your Best Friend just forget whatever has started this rift I will check your Discussions soon to see what has been going on with poor you [gabs8513]
Ok I will check it out now Sweetie [gabs8513]
You certainly do need a vacation. I'm sorry you dont have your best friend to share your problems with. Just remember you always have friends on mylot. I hope things get better for you really soon.xxx [slarkin71]
I have met some wonderful people here on mylot! I have several very lovely friends. I'm sure things will be better soon. Things can only go up from here! Thanks for your kind words. [wellamoose]
Hi Wellamoose, oh dear that is great that at least you received some money from Social Security, oh that is dreadful the way they run this as here in Australia this money belongs to the mother and goes straight into her account from Social Security. Oh wow you poor thing you certainly did have a dreadful day with your dogs yesturday. Your welcome and I do hope that it helped to vent your anger as I would be going out of my brains too with so much going on there, I think that you really do need a vacation so where would you like to go to?? [kathy77]
Hi love, well I will be sending you another one soon of Sydney if you like as I do not live in Parkes, any more. Happy that you liked the post card. xx [kathy77]
Whew - it sounds like you have a lot going on - I, too, will have to take a look at your other discussions. At least all of that bank stuff is over with now, and hopefully your kids will be able to access their money. Hopefully the rest of the situation with the SS will straighten out as well? [cutepenguin]
We were able to access the money the next day, so it all worked out. It was just really frustrating. Thanks for your reply. [wellamoose]
So sorry to hear that friend. Somehow you have to find out a way to communicate with your best friend. Let him understand whats happening, friends always understands friends, so try. Hope things will go well. [chase07]
I'm thinking about writing her a nice heart-felt letter since she won't answer her phone. Thanks for your advice. [wellamoose]
Awww first off let me say bless you. I know what you are going through. I have had like 6 years of pure terror and hell in my life! I won't go into it maybe we can become friends and write each other off mylot. I did go look at your homepage to see where you were I was going to see if you were close to me and I was gonna say where do you want to go and put you in the car and take you out! but you are in California and I am in Florida Oceans apart LOL But if you need a friend I am here just add me and give me a yell! Will be glad to talk to you Hugggggs to you [maries1952]
Hi Sweetie have things settled your way? If so you let them drift mine ROFL Its been crazy here for sure! Thanks for marking me best response. [maries1952]
I am so sorry you are having such a hard time! It's really bad about your dogs and I know it must be hard on you to have neighbors mad about it. If you haven't already, apologize to the neighbors about the cats. What kind of fence do you have up? I just recently put up electric wire along the top and bopttom of my fence because my dogs kept gettting out and it has worked wonderfully! They each got shocked one time 9as far as I know about) and they have not tried to get out anymore! Problem solved about that! I don't know why your daughter is having screaming mlet downs but I can tell you from experience that you ought to put a stop to that! I do nopt aloow that in my house and it makes things alot easier on me because that's one thing I don't have to deal with. Being afraid that you will say something to get your daughter upset is an awful way to live. Always tiptoeing around her. You need to get that situation under control. Never let yourself feel like you have to be careful around your daughter. Let her know that she will listen to what you have to say wether she likes it or not and that there will be no screaming or meltdowns when you say it. You are the mother and she needs to know that. Don't let her push you from your place and make you the child. As for your friend, try not to let it bother you. You have done all you can and it's not your fault. Just remember, right now EVERYTHING seems to be agaisnt you and you feel like you are all alone, BUT....this too will pass! Just hang on till it does. The sun will come up in the morning. Hope I didn't overstep here. May tomorrow be a better day for you!! [carolynpb]
First, let me say that you didn't overstep. I posted the discussion hoping to get some advice and to vent a little. Thank you for your advice. I'm usually really good at being in control over the kids. For some reason theough, this has had me so frazzled and I just felt like I couldn't take anymore. You know? She has a lot of emotional problems because of her biological father and the things that he did to her. (My husband is her step-father.) We went through the same stuff about 2 years ago. She got much better had wasn't having the meltdowns. Now, she's having them again. I don't normally let my kids walk on me. I'm usually very strict. I have grounded her from EVERYTHING and have given her more chores to do because of all of this. She told me yesterday that she is going to try to do better because she really hates being grounded and not being able to play games, watch her sisters play games or watch TV. She's stuck in her room all the time right now except when it's dinner time and when she's doing her chores. She is also going to 3 extra math classes a week to try to get her grade up. She's only 4 points away from passing the class. That's what really gets me! I'm not asking her for an A, even though she's capable, I just want her to pass the class. I don't think that's too much to ask. My dad took the kids for the weekend and let me just tell you, it made all the difference in the world! I'm feeling much better now. Thanks so much . [wellamoose]
Social Security is a pain to get started. I do agree. They have lots of rules and regulations. It does give you a headache. I am sorry to hear about the dogs. It is sad that you feel you cannot talk to everyone and your friend will not talk to you. Take a nice long bath and hold your head up. It is hard enough dealing with your daughter, don't let the other things get to you. Things will work out. You can PM me if you want to talk. Try to keep it together. [Thoroughrob]
If this is what has happened and if that is how you really feel, then I think you need to have a break. You need to refreshen your mind so that you will be able to plan your new strategies. It would be very hard to come up with good plans when your mind is very much pressured. Good luck to you friend. [hersmart4ever]
Just keep your head up. I'm sure everything will work out. I don't know if you are ready to get rid of the dogs. They may be to much to handle right now. It has been some time since you put up this post so hopefully everything is better now. [rdougl]