My answer is : NO.
When I go for travelling, my son sure will tag along.
I did told my husband before that only both of us go for another honey moon trip,but then my husband never agree to it.
For him, no matter where we go, always have to bring along our son too.
I do agree that it is pity to just leave my son at home while me and my husband enjoying our holiday.
So, everytime we are out from country for holiday, our dear son also has his share too.He also likes to take plane.
His first time taking plane is when he was 10 months old, we were on the way to Singapore,then back to my hometown.
I was very nervous when first time travelled with my son as I really have no experience at all travelling with kid.I am so lucky that everything were going fine.
And this coming December, we are going to travel again,back to my hometown and stopby Kuala Lumpur.
Happy weekend !!
[question posted by shia88]
responses and comments:
My answer is NO too. Though I sometimes get choked up with my son as I am a full time stay at home mother, I will never leave him behind just so that I can go travel. I wont be able to enjoy my journey as I'll constantly be thinking of him. It's either he goes with me or I not go at all. [submerryn]
Hi Merryn, I can imagine how your son stick to you all the time since your parents and in-laws are all outstation. For me, I only left my son with my mother-in-law if I really have something urgent need to attend.or else, I prefer to takecare myself. [shia88]
I have a toddler son and a baby daughter. I have taken my toddler son to five different countries and I was pregnant with my daughter when I took him to South Africa. We explored Cape Town and the Garden Route. I think taking children traveling is very educational. I love traveling with my children. [maximax8]
Hi Maximax, Wouh..that is an amazing trip for your son.He can explore so many countries and got chance to see the beautiful countries around the world. I also like to bring my son for holiday,it is kinda of educational trip for him too. While travelling, he can learn new things that happened in his surroundings and he can also interact with other kids as well. [shia88]
Dear Shia, I always tag along my son wherever I go except there was one time when he was 4 years old. That trip is only for ladies, no husbands or kid allowed, organised by my ex-colleague's friend, trip to Beijing (8 days trip)..lol My son was trained to travel with us every year to Singapore since he was 7 mths old. We drove there. We did brought him to Kuching, Sarawak by flight when he was 10 months old but a day before the trip he was sick with fever. The doctor gave us some medicine and tell us to go ahead. But his condition became worse and we have to shorten the holiday & flew back. We start travelling again when he was 5+ years old. He enjoyed his trip very much to Gold Coast, Australia but when I asked him now, he can't remember much about the trip except what he sees in the photos. When he was 7, we brought him to Sydney, he remembered the trip in details till now, that's fantastic! I can't remember most of it. He really learned a lot. Since then, every year we will bring him along with us, even long distance flights (22 hours) to New York, different weather like winter to Korea, Eastern Europe and Shanghai. Extremely hot deserted places like Egypt, Jordan etc. It is good exposure for young children, the culture, language, food etc. He even take the iniative to learn basic Spanish in the Internet before going to Malaga, Spain. He will google to check the tourist attractions etc. Most of the places are children friendly, airoplane provide child meals, toys and cartoon to watch especially Cathay Pacific. Enjoy with family, Quality time well spend together! [Iriene88]
Hi Iriene, That is amazing that you and your family has been to so many countries. Bringing our kid together for a holiday is a very good activities. He/she can learn new cultures and getting a chance to explore new things. My son's first trip was to Singapore when he was 10 months old, he was still small and still don't know alot of things. Then his second trip was also to Singapore again last December, that time, he got to know more things and have so much fun there. Now the third trip is this coming December,going back to my hometown and will stopby Kuala Lumpur before heading back to my husband's hometown. Spending time together is always the sweetest memories in my mind. [shia88]
hi shia, times when i have to travel and leave my daughter. work calls then i have to. since daughter is mature now, i can travel and leave her for a day or two. and also, she can not absent from her work and keep tagging along. but it is really lonely to go travelling and leaving her..sad i hope i get a chance to go on a vacation and we can all travel together. thank you for this discussion. annhappy [tigeraunt]
HI Ann, When come to business trip,of course,it is impossible for you to bring along your daughter and she can understand your position too. Travelling alone is bit boring,but if you have some free time, go for short holiday trip with your daughter,I am sure you will be enjoying your trip there. It is also the time where you guys can relax. [shia88]
If I did have kids I would bring them with me everywhere I go. It would be fun just having them with me while exploring the world. I don't think I would take them somewhere else and leave them all by themselves while I go and have fun. I just hope they don't make trouble and we just have fun. ^^ [Melbee11]
HI Melbee, Bringing our kids along for holiday can be very fun. Although it might be more tiring,but you can spend your most quality time with them,having fun together and it is kinda of educational trip for them too. That is why I always bring my son along when I am out for travelling. Leaving him at home is impossible. [shia88]
Its very good news,have a nice trip.Well shia,i can't go alone anywhere leaving my children.I just can't think about it. [2babita]
Shia.. firstly, it's happy to hear that you be getting your holiday soon in 2 months time, and shall I look forward for your return? lol As for me, being in my situation, I never travel without my baby girl, provided I am at work. At any point if I am going out, I sure bring her along. We have made a few road travelling to Ipoh, teluk Intan & Penang recently. I have plans to bring this girl to either Bangkok or Singapore next year when she is able to do her own walking, and I am quite excited in this. [cwong77]
Hi Cwong, I always enjoy my holiday with my boy around. It can be quite tiring,but we enjoyed and having fun together. Of course, I won't be travelling alone with my son only,my husband will join us too. at least, he can help to takecare of my son too. As my son is growing up,at least, I no need to bring so many of his stuffs when we travel around,especially the milk formula has been reducing. The first time I went back to my hometown for 2 months,I have to carry 1 big box of milk formula too as my hometown don't sell enfagrow original flavour. [shia88]
happyhappy Hi Shia. When they were young and still at home, yes, I never left my three daughters behind. They loved to travel as much as I did, and it was a good experience for all of us! Karen [PeacefulWmn9]
HI Karen, Travelling with kid can be tiring,but it was so fun. I always travel with my son along,not to forget with my husband too. Three of us enjoying our holiday. I can't wait for this coming December as I am going to travel back to my hometown again. [shia88]
My mom and stepdad have been away on holiday many times withou me or my brother, so yes they would. [Xemnas12]
dear well i agree that it is very hard to visit in train or plane with kids because they really make us bother but if we ignor children so it will be bad effect on them try to understand their feeling also as child well i read your scrap your husband is very good he knows how to care children but might be somewhere you are being selfish sorry what i felt i wrote .I am not saying that you have to go everywhere with your kids bcz i know it is not possible ,even i understand that everyone needs privacy but do onething sometime you can go [SACHIN2708]
Hi Sachin, Bringing our kid for holiday can be fun ,but for sure it is tiring. And there is a time where I can't really enjoy our holiday as I still have to takecare of my son. However,seeing my son enjoyed himself, I was so happy and my tiredness will just gone by itself. [shia88]
No. If I have the money to spend for it, I would surely love to bring them with me. When I went to Florida last year, I was alone. It was just an invitation. My youngest son was so amazed with my stories about the places I went to and about the plane trip. I wish I can bring him next time. [wookieekyut]
Hi,shia,i used to separate the tours which are going along with children and going along with wife only.If there are some children parks,places where children can enjoy type of lacesmthere must be our children.When we go to temples-holy places...me and my wife only travel. [Baluyadav]
HI Baluyadav, I never got the chance to travel alone with my husband and I don't think I will have this chance too. We always bring our son together when we are going for holiday, we wanted him to enjoy with us too.It was quite fun.The problem is that we can really enjoyed that much bringing our son along.As you know, small kid can be crancky sometimes and need lot of attention. [shia88]
wow thats great 1st time at 10 m0nths old :) well if i have one i will bring him or her too. I want my child to experience the best that i can give. [redphile]
I also usually take my kids along with me for any vacation. I simply don't have the peace of mind when they are not in front of me. Plus, they really enjoy traveling with us. Sometimes though, it gets very tiring. So we leave them with a reliable caretaker and go to an overnight trip or dinner, my wife and I, so that we can enjoy just each others company... [AD1970]
Hi, I agreed with you,it is very tiring to bring kid along for holiday.But like what you mentioned, I also don't have the peace in mind leaving my son at home .so the best is to tag him along. I just can't really enjoy my holiday as I still need to entertain him.But overall, it is still fun. [shia88]
Hi Shia88, I did not have a kid so I don't know whether I will go with my kidslol In my current concept, I will not bring the kids with me for travelling unless the kids are old enough to take care of themselves in case any accidents happened. Sometimes I find that I am not mature to be a mother as I don't know how to take care of myself. I am so scared that I can not take care of my kids, needless to say in the process of travelling.happy [sasalove]
Definitely I'll. I never take kids with me unless it's very much required for me to take them. I just don't want them to be with me when I want some time shopping alone or traveling. Why should I bother! Is it my duty? NO, i don't think so. The only reason i don't take kids with me is I don't have kids!!! If i had i would've taken them!! [almightyonline]
it depends on the travel where i am going to, if it involves just one day for business matter then better travel alone without having kids to avoid him getting tired of travelling. [xannebull]
Well for now, I have no kids. But I do love to travel. However, time comes when I'm gonna have my own family, I would definitely love to take them along with my travel. Obviously, that would be fun and a great way to strengthen the bond between me and my family. [IMEzekieL]
we used to take my daughter with us though i wanted a trip alone with my hub he didnt allow it even if i leave her n go i don't think so we can enjoy the trip parents are always like this because we love our child very much so goes with all parents [deepamoorthy]
Hi Deepamoorthy, Your situation is same with me,sometimes I do wish I can travel with my husband only,without my son. But the situation is not permitted and I also can enjoy in peace without seeing my son for few hours,so at last, every holiday trip, my son will tag along and he really have so much fun throughout the journey. [shia88]
Your son must really be one seasoned traveler too. No, I do not travel much and my children hardly follows. They have school to go. Anyway, most of my trips are quick ones and I am always back after a day or two. No really long hauls for me. Hubby and home needs me! [gracefuldove]
Hi Gracefuldove, My son loves travelling,everytime I told him that we will be out of town, he was so happy and can't wait for the big day to come. I believe all kids love travelling. Only the parents have to suffer more as can't really enjoy ourselves as our kid still need our attention all the time. But it is still fun to go travel with our kid. [shia88]
If I have family available to watch my ids heck yeah I'd travel without them and enjoy myself only for a little bit before I'd start worrying about what they're doing lol! [msinfo79]
I always bring my daughter with me when i go traveling for leisure... i want to instill in her the love for traveling... the first time she travel to a far province was when she was like 14 months old... She already has a passport so out next destination is Kota Kinabalu next year... and she is already very excited about it... [aseretdd]
My daughter will be 4 years old when we leave for our trip to Kota Kinabalu... i already checked the location and rates of Tune Hotel... and it is quite affordable... but a little far for the main city... and that is where i would like to take her... so i think i will search for other affordable hotels but a lot closer so that we don't need to take the taxi... [aseretdd]
Hi Shia, Absolutely most of the peoples used to take their kids on the holiday trips in order to enjoy the trips in the proper way. As your husband told you that he never traveled without his kids and also he may felt that is really wrong decision to go foreign trips without the kids, because we would like to enjoy our self similarly our kids also want to enjoy the holiday trips. Most of the times I used to travel to many countries in the world and used to accompany with the kids and it will give me more pleasure and also our kids also used to get more happy when they are with us. So better to accompany the kids with us all the time to go for the foreign trips or holidays trips which will give more pleasure and also give more satisfaction. Have a nice day. [Binthu]
Hi Binthu, I think not all parents want to bring their kids together for holiday. Like my cousin, everytime when she was on holiday, she will just leave her sons with the maid and let them stayed overnight at her mother's place. It is very obvious that she want to enjoy with her husband and does not want her kids to interrupt her holiday trip. Sometimes, I do wish I can go holiday with my husband only,but it is not fair to my son as he don't join us enjoyed together.Although he is still a small kid,but he also know how to enjoy and it will get him to explore more things throughout the holiday trip.He gets to learn different cultures from different countries. [shia88]
Hi Shia, This will be my very first comment i hope you don't mind my (bad) writing (i'm from Belgium). I have three kids of my own and never went without them on holliday till last year. My son was 18 and prefer to have a trip with his girlfriend. This year he explicitly asked when we would go on vacation because he mised it very much last year and had remorce. He really likes those two weeks only with the family and without friends or other people he knows. I really do think you should bring along your son to every trip you make and have a kind of honey moon at home till your son has grown up. It is a comitment to your children to let them have as many as it gets on family bonding. you never will regret it. Have a nice weekend and much of fun with the family. Greatings from Belgium. Roby. [robyoosterbosch]
Hi, Thanks for leaving a comments on my discussions.You are always welcome to support my discussions. Bringing our kids for holiday is always fun and it is a great opportunity to get closer to our kids and it is a good family bonding moments. As for me, I love to take pictures for my son when we are out for holiday, It is sweet memories for three of us. I also bring my son for every holiday trip and now we are looking forward for our december trip. [shia88]
No I wont. I travelled 5 times in a year to visit my mom and my sibling. But wherever I go of course my kids will go. I never been travelled without them. If I can't bring them along I'd rather not to go too, I wont leave them and I can't sleep without them. Before I was confine in a hospital for 3 days I can still remember how much I cried the first night sleeping without my kids in my side. I can't afford to travel without bringing my kids along, never ever. [mrssator2002]
HI mrssator, YOu are a great mom and I believe you must have a close relationship with all your kids. I really wish I can travel often to visit my parents,my siblings and my friends. I always go back to my hometown once a year,that is in December. My son and husband will go along too. I also miss my son alot when I don't see him for a couple of hours.Sometimes, when I need to be out for awhile(few hours) to settle my things, I will left my son with my in-law, my mind will keep wondering whether is he doing well and what is he doing now.It is kinda of mother's nature. [shia88]
Hi Shia, It is no fix answer for the question. It really depends where you are traveling and what activity involved when you are travel. For The kids age is a factor too when comes to traveling. When I first give birth to my daughter, I left her and my hub to my mother in law and I travel to Hong Kong with my family . That was the time my daughter was 3 months old. My hub was not traveling with me so I don't think it is easy for me to handle a new born baby in over seas. More ever we were all for shopping trips at Hong kong, so I don;t think travel with her is a good choice. Few month after the hong kong trip, I follow my hub for his company trip to Phuket Thailand. We didn't bring the baby along too because first reason is she is still too small to travel and secondly it is incentive trip with all kinds of outdoor activities and I believe it is so hard to get a baby tag with us. But of course we did get a few family trip and bring along my kids to travel. First we brought her for some local destination and we also want her to fly. We did bring her to a local island by flight. After get to see she is very behave well and we brought her for trip with international flight . I am glad that she loves travel, she got my gene maybe. LOl. We will try to bring her for more trips and travel as she is now good enough to remember what things have happen around her. We wouldn't leave her behind again [vingyan06]
Hi Vingyan, I agreed with what you said,it is best to not bring our kid for travelling when they are still very young. For me, the first time my son was on plane is when he was 10 months old, I was nervous about his flight time on flight.We went to Singapore,but I am happy that he did not get cranky for the whole trip.Although it is more tiring as have to bring lot of things out(like milk formula,diapers,etc)for my son,but overall we still enjoyed our holiday. I have been telling my son that this coming december we will be on the plane again,back to visit my parents,my siblings and my friends.He is so happy and keep saying : take plane take plane. Kids always like to travel around,explore new things around them and it is kinda of good experiences for them. [shia88]
No!I won't like to leave my kids for a family trip.But when it is a business trip,normally we don't go with our family while some people even do that.they merge the business trip and a vacation for the kids.My choice is to have them both separated.A business trip should be gone alone and a family trip should not leave anybody. [srganesh]